沟通

不只是言语上的交流，不只是咨询上的传达。
不是缓和疑心的管道，不是讽刺言论的桥梁。
是了解一个人的理想，情绪，心情，感情。
是听，用心听，用心感觉，用眼神肯定，用手抚慰。
是和跟你不一样想法，观念、背景的人 拥有的共鸣。

可以不认同对方的看法，但不可强硬对方接受自己的看法；这不是辩论。
可以表达自己的意见，但不可以用指责、责备的语气；这就不是沟通而是吵架。

可以培养吗？还是需顺其自然？或是不能勉强， 有就有；没有就没有？
需要一而再，再而三的尝试吗？
是说“请你讲，我愿意听，静静地听”？
还是容易引发自我防卫的炸弹； 别人还没说完就抢先为自己辩护？

是门艺术也。

如我妈说的：“沟通是先听后评。 毕竟上帝给与我们两只耳朵、一张嘴。”

Are we conscious of our actions when we were drunk?

Was it a natural flow of their most hidden emotions that they have it suppressed deep inside them?
Now that you are drunk, you have the courage to express it out? Were they conscious of their actions or totally had no clue?

Some mistakes were thus the results when ones were drunk, they blame it on the alcohol and who are they trying to fool? Some totally acted blur: “huh? Did I?” Some conveniently forgot that people were watching.

Are there some stigmas inevitable; closely labeled to intoxication of alcohol that people are forced to accept as excuses? Or maybe, why even bother to look at them? People are just wanna be out having fun and that include the one you are “romantically” seeing.